Socialisation Concerns, Theory and Practise
I am planning on home schooling my child and have heard many
concerns as to socialisation. For example, "how will interact with
others?", "will they spend all day inside?", "will they be able to
interact when they are adults?", "will they be deprived social?"
School is only a relatively new thing and, to me, school is the
experiment, not home education. It was only in the late 1800's
when schools were introduced yet now it is the "norm". Prior to
this, children would learn through observation, spending time with
their parents and other adults or siblings, through trade etc. They
did not learn through the school system.
I am certainly not concerned about my child's ability to socialise
and am not concerned that they will not be able to interact as
adults. Quite the contrary in fact...
Imagine learning through practise and observation rather than
through a text book? Isn't it so much easier this way? For
example, in a classroom when you're learning a foreign language
you are taught through instruction and books. If you are home
educating, what's to stop you spending time in France for
example, and learning the language, culture, geography, way of
living, laws and politics through practise. This is the best way to
learn and there is no doubting this.
The best way to succeed in the business world is to be exposed
to the business world, not through theory but through practise. I've
always maintained that 1 year's industry experience is worth more
than a doctorate in that industry. Theory just isn't the same as
practise, it only gets you so far.
What I am saying is that school is not the best way to learn both
socially and education wise. The best way to learn how to act as
an adult is to be around adults most of the time. However,
children are around children for over 40 hours a week these days
and around adults at night and on weekends (sometimes). We
also have to keep in mind that half of this time is spent winding
down after a hectic day, watching TV etc. This is not "quality"
time. A child learns through example and practise and if they are
spending the majority of time with other people of their age, they
are learning how to act like they are from that age group. Is this
the best way to socialise? I don't think so.
Children need to feel comfortable around adults when they are
children and treated like adults to grow into a respectable mature
adult with a great insight into how the world really works, not how
the theory of a text book thinks it works. When a child reads from
a text book, they are reading the point of view of one person and
have to trust it.. why? Because they haven't seen it to be able to
make a decision for themselves, an analysis, an interpretation...
so they grow with a point of view of the world that is not really
Becoming well educated doesn't mean sitting in classroom
copying from the blackboard or reading a text book (that the state
has recommended) or learning subjects that the child has no
interest in. Being well educated comes from experience that the
school system can certainly not provide.
Social skills are not achieved by being thrown into a class of 25
people who are your age and being forced to adapt to them... this
is unnatural in my opinion. Good social skills are achieved
naturally through spending time with adults and *choosing* friends
(not necessarily of the same age).
Children grow and develop their skills through experiencing life,
not being thrown in a select group for 14 years or more. This is
how it has been in the past, throughout history... it worked then
and it works now.